Just Having Fun

By Wendy Friedlander

So there’s this boy. And you like him. A lot.

“Oh that Johnny! He is hot! I really like him. We have so much fun together.”

You decide to let things progress and you and Johnny sleep together.

You and Johnny are having so much fun that before you know it, your fun times are getting serious in your mind and you start fantasizing about doing more with Johnny than hanky-panky.

Trouble is, you aren’t sure Johnny is thinking the same thing.

You ask your girlfriends what they think. You go through his behavior and look for hints that he is getting as serious about you as you are with him.

But then, as time goes on and the only thing Johnny seems to be around for is fun, you start to realize that maybe he’s still just having fun.

And you, you’re committed.

“That Johnny is a player.” You tell yourself. You cry to your friends about it. You wonder when you will ever meet a guy who wants to get serious.

“Why does this keep happening?” You wonder as you go through all the other Johnnies who have slipped away.

You try to take an objective look at yourself. You wonder why you keep falling in love while every guy just wants to have fun.

You are not alone. This happens to women all the time.

It’s a pattern. An unhealthy pattern that puts your most vital organ in harms way, your heart.

Energetically speaking, a woman’s reproductive center, her uterus and cervix, is connected to her pericardium, which is a sac that contains her heart.

And what is your heart? It’s your center of love.

When a woman has sex, she has an energetic exchange that leaves a mark on her heart.

Quite literally, a woman falls in love through sex.

Men, lacking the same reproductive organs, do not.

Men can have all the sex they want and it in no way creates the same feelings of love that affect woman.

So, as a woman, it is your responsibility to protect your heart.

Does that mean avoiding sex?

Not necessarily.

It means understanding the risks of having fun. Every time you have sex, you are opening your heart, an opening that does not happen automatically for your partner.

It means that if you want to be in a serious relationship know he loves you before you take that step.

When a man loves you. You know it. A man in love is dedicated. He comes after you.

So, instead of having fun and seeing where it goes, wait for him to come to you and then have some fun.

Sat Kriya

Sat Kriya is a fundamental Kundalini Yoga meditation that re-channels sexual energy around your body. In other words, it’s a meditation that makes it a little easier to postpone having fun when that loud voice in your head says “Come on! It’s been too long! Just one time! He’s not going to wait for you! Go for it!”

1. Kneel on the ground and then sit on your heels (this is known as rock pose)
2. Raise arms above head and interlace fingers
3. Extend the index fingers to point straight up and touch fingertips. Try your best to keep your palms touching, your elbows straight and inline with your ears.
4. While remaining in this position chant “Sat Nam” repeatedly for 3 minutes, working up to 11 min.
5. Rest on your back for at least a minute

Note: Pull in on your navel with “Sat” and then release with “Nam.” Pull in so tight you get a bonus stomach workout without doing any sit-ups!

Recommended music:
Track #4 on Bhakti Naam by Dr. Joseph Michael Levry (http://www.rootlight.com/music-bhakti-naam.htm)

About the author: Wendy is a single mom, cancer survivor and yogi. She traveled the world to find health and is grateful to share the tools and knowledge she gained on the way. Learn more athttp://wendyfriedlander.c

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About the Author:
Wendy is a single mom, cancer survivor and yogi. She traveled the world to find health and is grateful to share the tools and knowledge she gained on the way. Learn more athttp://wendyfriedlander.com

You can reach Wendy at wendy@lovethroughwisdom.com; her website is notesofgratitude.me