By Carmen Bardequez Brown
The world is a book and those who do not travel read only one page. –
I have definitely gone through my own Eat. Pray. Love. Actually, it is more meditation on love, dance, loss, and forgiveness.
Traveling solo around the world for the last two years has forced me to engage with myself, and I learned about people and the world. But ultimately, I just learned about myself.
This last trip was a celebration of love as my son got married to his soulmate in Bali. Their love healed me. I also rediscovered a purpose in meeting Wayan and his beautiful family. Wayan is from Bali and his family have lived in the same home for over six generations.
In Bali, all members of the family live together and support each other. Their homes have a place where weddings are celebrated as well as a place to mourn those members of the family that transition to the spirit world.
Wayan and his wife tend to their rice paddy. He also works as a cab driver, taking tourists all over Ubud and the neighboring areas. He loves his three daughters and is desperately searching for ways to ensure their education can open up opportunities for them. His sense of family commitment and understanding of spiritual practice inspired me.
Everyone in Wayan’s household does the offering ceremony at least twice a day. There is a strong spiritual tradition that is almost embedded in the Balinese people’s DNA. Wayan’s positivity and commitment to family and life changed my thinking about life.
I feel stronger in a way that I haven’t felt before but I also feel not sure what the future holds but isn’t that life? Nobody knows exactly what life has for us. Yes, we could plan many plans and dream many dreams but ultimately the mystery of life always has a way to throw us a curve ball, right when you least expect it.
We need to accept that Life with a capital L is actually in charge. It is good to plan, I have done it all of my life but you also have to learn to surrender to the unknown.
We have to learn to feel comfortable with the mystery of life. We have to truly live what we live because that moment of sadness, that moment of grief, that moment of passion, that moment of ecstasy is all there is. It is a moment that will not happen again.
Will be memories written in the stories of your life.
So be kind to yourself.
Be kind to your loved ones
Be kind to each other
Even the person that you meet for a few moments of your life
because that exchange of energy are pebbles that will build your life’s path.
Make sure to gather as many pebbles as you can
And don’t be scared to add pebbles as diverse as nature itself.
Build rainbows that will pave interesting ways to enrich your life’s journey.
Don’t be scared to live.
Remember to accept uncertainty as an opportunity to learn to grow and to love.